The term emotional Intelligence describes the ability to recognize one’s own and other people’s emotions, to identify feelings and label them appropriately, and to use that information to guide thinking and behavior. High or successful emotional intelligence is critical in decision making, in developing and maintaining relationships, and in job performance.
In a Black Student SUCCESS Project workshop late last month, Parkland counselor Joe Omo-Osagie led students in a series of assessments designed to test their emotional self-awareness. While there weren’t necessarily right or wrong answers, the questions definitely challenged students’ ways of thinking and highlighted areas where they might want to consider making changes.
The most sensitive, enlightened, and self-aware person among us can always use a boost of higher emotional intelligence. Take the short quiz below as an introductory guide to evaluating your own level of emotional intelligence. If you can honestly answer “True” to each statement, you can feel good about having a high degree of emotional intelligence. If you cannot, you might want to consider developing those skills. The payoff lasts a lifetime!
- I can usually let go of problems, hurt feelings, and anger and move on (self-control): True or False
- I can usually engage in a conversation with someone and interpret that person’s body language signals (empathy): True or False
- I can usually identify my emotions at any given moment (self-awareness): True or False
- I try to look at situations in a positive light (motivation): True or False
- I can usually deal calmly and sensitively to the emotional displays of others, even if I don’t know all the details (social competency): True or False
- I can fairly easily admit mistakes and apologize (self-confidence): True or False
[Donna Tanner-Harold is a counselor in Parkland’s Counseling and Advising Center and coordinates Black Student Success Project activities.]